I am not catholic and attend non denominational churches. Good luck and I hope everything works out:). Basically she was told by the priest that if she doesn’t get married in the Catholic Church she would loose her teaching position. Lisa Marie -Because you are closed minded, which is not supported in the Catholic Church. I had to find baptismal records for our next visit with the priest. Some basic requirements may include: baptismal certificate, freedom to marry, marriage preparation, family planning classes, and etc…. I have told him that I want to us to get married in a Catholic church and that I want to raise our kids as Catholics. I have been dating a Muslim guy who doesn’t believe in God. We agree there is ONE holy Father and that is God! I would check with your pastor and see. I mean no disrespect; I’m just trying to understand what you mean. I have been baptized just not in the catholic church. I cannot visit that again. One way is to go to a Catholic mass on Sat nite and a Baptist service on Sunday morn. I am jay and i love a girl. you do have to swear. Don’t compromise your beliefs. It just simply makes for a happier fulfilled marriage and family..best of luck. Even though we are both very young, my boyfriend and I have decided that we will get married in the future. Being divorce is not a sin. I don’t understand praying through Mary? I am dating a man who is Catholic and I am not. I learn that this will not be a sacramental marriage. I am hindu guy and my girlfriend is roman catholic to whom I want to marry we had 1st only decided that we won’t get convert until any1 of us wants to get convert on our own free will and regarding children I have told her that I don’t have any objection if they to follow mother’s religion Also read 1 corinthian 7: 1-16. Can her minister say some words (prayers, blessings, etc..) at the wedding? let the bones you have crushed rejoice. My husband is quite tensed due to not havind his parents support. Trish has since gotten remarried (2 years ago) with a Christian man named Paul from Haiti and they have had a son, Joshua. Hello, Totally possible, very common actually! It is advisable to do this before making dates and plans. ONE. Im Orthodox and my partner is catholic, my partner is not religious and does not want to be in a church, i however am not fully religious but would still like to have a priest at my wedding for my family. One more thing my native is madurai in tamilnadu. Parish priests are awesome, but someone at the Diocese might know canon law better and be able to resolve this for you. I am born in an Anglican church but my fiancee is a roman Catholic and we plan to get married very soon. You can marry someone of another faith in the Catholic Church. Don’t listen to your priest unless he agrees with Jesus. However, having a woman marry more than one husband is not common, no matter how liberal the society is. My boyfriend is from a diehard Jehovah’s witness family. There is no way a seminarian would NOT be permitted to become a priest because of the actions his siblings are involved in, independent of him. You will be unequally yoked, with you bearing the burden of teaching your children the Catholic Faith ALONE. Vatican II realized ! If two people cannot agree, but marry anyway, their disagreement prevents them from becoming one as God desires. Pray and look into St. Rita. I feel as if many blinds have fallen off my eyes. Your first step would be to see where she stands in regards to this issue. I understand her feeling deceived but that was never my intent. I have the rosary and Bible just next to my Hindu God S picture where I pray everyday. The Catholic Church doesnt preach that they are the one true religion, even the Pope recognizes other religions of the world, never condemning them. You stayed that neither of you wanted to change your faiths, which stands to reason that your beliefs on worship, laws, etc are different. Now I am still Baptist and he is Pentecostal. My boyfriend was baptized when he was younger but he doesn’t know into what specific Christian branch (lutheran, baptist, etc). (The concept of dispensation, or the relaxation of a merely ecclesiastical law in a particular case [c. 85], was discussed at greater length in “Marriage between a Catholic and a Non-Catholic.”) If, let’s say, a widowed man wishes to marry his widowed mother-in-law—hardly a common occurrence!—the diocesan bishop can assess the situation and determine whether a dispensation from the impediment of affinity should be granted. I am a confirmed Roman Catholic, and he was baptized in the Anglican Church but later his mother moved them to the full gospel church. Whether or not various clergy of the church considers our marriage valid I don’t care. What is the catholic view about a catholic marrying an Adventist in the Adventist church? To marry someone who is divorced, you will need special permission. But i do not know how to proceed. You can most certainly have a mixed marriage – I’ve seen it work – but you must know when to compromise. So when my child realizes one day, I go to daddies church but not mommies or I want to go to moms church because It seems spiritually right for me- I have to say no! She has followed the bible teaching as well as what’s taught in both Catholic religion and Protestant faith and in the end choosen for follow a non denominational Protestant faith. However, he feels he isn’t ready for baptism. Because of this, I cannot open up the painful past with my ex husband because there was also abuse and alcohol. 9 I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.”. we are both christian and my question is, is it possible we get married in catholic church? Key word here is INDEPENDENTLY so there will be no arguments. I don’t have a problem with her going to her Church but why insist I convert? Please settle a discussion I am having with a widow friend. My wife went through RCIA over 40 years after marriage and she converted to Catholicism and we have now been married over 55 years. I have a Catholic lady I want to marry but she’s insists I convert. as a confirmation is needed to get married the question is can we still pursue our plan to get married on catholic church? However, issues arise when both our mothers (at different occasions) mentioned their concerns. Where do they get these rules? If your local priest has a problem with you not being Catholic, explain that you have no problem and you will help raise the child in the Church. I really miss my husband who is otherwise a very nice person but I am upset that he had not kept his promise made. And once the priest found out my husband was baptized Catholic he will not be allowed to marry us in the church unless my husband attends RCIA to bring him up to date on his sacraments because he is not a confirmed Catholic and therefore can not be married in the church. He wants to get married in a Catholic Church which I am fine with. Don’t do it. The deeper question will be of cousre to what extent your faith and his create differences in your day to day lives, the way you would want to educate children, celebrations (I believe jehovah’s witnesses oppose celebrating Christmas or birthdays, for example, would taht bother you?). really for the best interests to keep existing Catholics in the Church and not drive them away !! The Church continues to evidence concern for marriages between in-laws in some situations, but at the same time it acknowledges that marrying one’s in-law isn’t always a bad thing. I think it is unfortunate that you feel Catholic doctrine is very controlling but in the end for any Catholic it’s up to each individual to determine how they interpret the Church’s teachings or the Bible’s teachings and how they will follow their moral compass and apply it to their relationships with God and the world. frown on couples like us, but younger couples do not. With RCIA you get baptized, first communion, and confirmation all at the same time. My love is at stake here. Have you gone together and talked with her priest? They were married in the Methodist church. Why is it so important to u if he doesn’t believe in Jesus? The other person only needs to get an annulment.? Go see your local Bishop, explain your situation to the Bishop, and that you intend to raise your children Catholic. how does one post questions and get answers? Then when they are old enough they can choose. The problem is that we get caught up in rules and that’s wrong. So they wonder why mom picks a church that could be damaging to her soul instead dads church where they “protect souls” ? We have a good understanding with each other. It doesn’t matter what your religion is as long as you both believe in God and Jesus Christ. Thank you. When we met I was convinced I was Catholic but I now know better. As we started going to the church a lot more and knowing their oppositions towards my customs and beliefs I am extremely taken aback and do not wish to convert as that’s not who I am. The next thing I know, not sure how, but I wanted to be with God, go to church, pray for my brothers and sisters. Your marriage will not be valid in the eyes of the church. And in any case, a priest will not perform a Catholic wedding unless you at least learn about Catholicism and agree to raise the kids Catholic. I forgot to mention that the Catholic Church doesn’t demand that the non catholic person convert in order to get married by the church. I teach the Confirmation class and am the coordinator of the program. But as it stands, the priest may feel that since you are living in what is not a valid marriage in the eyes of your wife’s (and soon your) Church, you need to get your marriage situation sorted out in the eyes of the Church before you can receive the sacraments of initiation into the Church (baptism, communion…) and become a member in good standing. My Mother who was a devote Catholic died of Cancer when I was 18 and my father was This issue of Catholics insisting of obtaining the permission of the Bishop prior to a non catholic marrying a lady from catholic has caused a lot of havoc in my town, Nanka, Nigeria. No objections here. Go to a Protestant church where the whole family will be accepted. We she married a Methodist. Love and marriage are wonderful..but they are both a work in progress each day and without common ground and stability, which should begin with your faith, it will be a constant struggle. Your argument is that it’s not okay because of one set of verses. I am also engaged to a wonderful non catholic and also divorced man. Plz help We are planning to get married next year and I was wondering if its possible to marry in a catholic church? I am Presbyterian, i fall in love with a Catholic girl can i marry in Presbyterian Church? Could I still get married otherwise? Henry VIII, King of England, (1491-1547) could not get a male heir from his wife, Catherine of Arragon.Thus he divorced her on the grounds that she had been his brother's wife. with job ,If the boy do not wishes to convert will the church allow to conduct betrothel ceremony there? Were it not for Protestantism we’d still be in Medieval tiems. I have many Catholic friends who are so much more tolerant so it is an individual thing. If he gives the permission, your marriage is also valid in the Catholic Church. If no such entity, start with a nearby church of where his family used to live at that time. The purpose of a marriage is to provide companionship. I was baptized Lutheran and my “civil” husband was baptized Catholic. If there was any separation from those that sat on the seat of Moses, it was that Jesus pointed out their hypocracy and told his discipcles to obey them but not to follow their example. My fiancé tried to explain to these family members how hurtful these things were and they just pushed the situation further and went as far as to threaten me physically for speaking up when they were emotionally attacking my our son for something he didn’t say (the only family member present was the brother who started this and he was plastered and high- at a child’s birthday party!) I am taking the RCIA program and I hope get baptized next year. When we arrived at the Sacrament of ‘Confirmation’, my youth minister did interviews so that the kids who were being forced by their grandparents or whoever but were not willing to commit to the Church did not have to do it. Thank you so much sir for such a comprehensive talk concerning a marriage between a catholic and non catholic, Your email address will not be published. My family supported the duality but his family refused to appreciate that another religion existed. I asked my Priest what to do before hand, now married with no answers from Priest I cannot receive communion until we get a blessing from the priest. If this is the case, then no, he would would not be committing adultery if he remarries since your marriage to him has been annulled. Not in the Catholic Church. Talk to your local Pastor. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 4 years- he is Catholic and I am a born-again Christian. Are There Any Limitations on the Power of the Pope? I wish you the best but in my situation, we failed. Wilson rodrigues. Is it possible to have a wedding outside with a priest there?? No harm, no foul. Recently my niece was married. She really transcended many of the things that we worry about every day. How much have you talked to him about his religion and these issues? That union ended in 2001 by the divorce decree. Please help. All I needed was patience and prayer! She is not an active member of any church and has not been for many years. They belong fully to the community and as members thereof, but are not ordained. I wish you luck. Now, by marriage, she is your aunt, and as such, like your father's sister, in No. Hi Andrea. The most fatal issue being that she criticizes the Catholic way of prayer, I want my fiancee to have a wedding she has dreamed of since growing up. I am divorced and have an annulment and know I can marriage again. Annulments is only way according to church. Say if your husband use to be Catholic, or another Christian denomination and then became agnostic later. The first step is to contact your parish priest. No Children and age 64 and also, like you, been happily married for 30+ years. No-NO-no——-you are considered a widow already. It is really our beginning and I feel to be judge and rejected by her mother without taking in consideration if I’m a good or bad person and if I can make her daughter happy. You can get married in the Catholic Church, a requirement is that you raise your children Catholic, which you two have seemed to agree to. Geez. Please l really need help…. If those priests are acting that way, report them. Father William Saunders is pastor of Our Lady of Hope parish in Potomac Falls, Virginia. Thank you Melissa for the advice.i had never thought that this will matter at all, while we were dating. A Catholic cannot be expelled because they visited another wedding, even when the wedding was not permitted by the Church. Can’t I just get baptized normally as a single person then after that we can have a wedding in the church and get our wedding blessed ? If u have the true belief that god exists and don’t consider any other idols as god, just get baptized and lead a peaceful life. Hi..im a roman catholic and single..im now engaged with a divorced non -christian (buddhist) and we are planning to have a church wedding..Is it possible?..does my fiance need to be converted to catholic? Really the only issue si whether your fiancé woudl be willing to marry in a Catholic church, or maybe in a ceremony co-officiated by both a Catholic priest and someone representing the Jehovah’s witnesses. If an annulment is granted, you may be married in church. Not any anger against God, just this man made religion. I love to raise them as Catholics but I’m afraid that my partner disagree with it and saying I am selfish.. please give some advice. I only say this to say that I’ve heard this question many times, and have had to make sure I have a response. It’s not difficult getting the approval from the bishop but your pastor must do it for you. Pray and follow His word, ask The Holy Spirit to show you the way of The Lord. Toward that end, when marriage was established, God said, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). You will have to agree to raise any offspring within the Catholic Faith. Linguistically, Allah is a name that means “God” but they are not referring to the same God Christian’s believe in. The fact is, if you don’t know her faith, then you don’t know her. Joshua is 1 month old and they have just circumcised him for health reasons. Good luck! What would it take? It depends on why she got divorced. My intent is to do this because I want to learn more about it on my own not because she wants me to. Miracles do happen! If you truly liv this woman, then take the time, the effort to study with her. ive search about it differences…so, let say if i im getting married with him…im i wrong to choose his religion as seventh day adventist or should i stay with my roman catholic?…. to make the story short wen i meet here again she is no longer a catholic but a born again christian. In my opinion, unless your fiancé gets an annulment of his previous marriage you can’t marry him. M realy confusd wt to do?can v get married witout geting convertd n church. A brother is a member of a male religious community that has taken vows but has not received Holy Orders. And in case some want to disparage my comment, yes, I am a Catholic and yes, while I would prefer to marry a Catholic myself, I don’t think it’s anyone’s place to judge whom God calls us to love. This scenario doesn’t happen every day, but it evidently occurs often enough to have helped to motivate the change in canon law, in order to permit such a marriage. I am a catholic getting married to a non-catholic. He doesn’t believe in any religion and I thought getting married in a church would be impossible, especially since I do not want to convert him. Thanks for reply in advance. And I think i said we don’t care if the church doesn’t consider out marriage valid. Please advice. As far as praying through her, would not a son listen to His Mother? Make sure you inform your priest of your intention to abandon the Church after receiving the Sacrament of Marriage there. We went to Mass and services at my church for 9 months prior to our marriage. hi..i’m a lady of 21years old.really need advice from you.i’m a catholic in a relationship with a muslim.i love him with the whole of my heart and he loves me crazy too.we want to spend the rest of our lives together by getting married but the issue is our ‘big’ religious difference.my parents are Knights and he is from a strong muslim family as well..pls talk to me cos we’re really depressed. My worry is that my Dad will refuse to attend our wedding. we do want to get married with an amicable solution. Pray. Even you uttering the word humility is laughable. He doesn’t believe in purgatory and other Catholic beliefs. I was devastated our marriage failed but know that the refusal of one family to acknowledge the other’so religion and respect it , is a big risk. Affinity in any degree of the direct line invalidates marriage. Hello, I don’t mean to sound negative, but if you don’t believe in Catholicism and don’t want your children to be Catholic, I see little sense in your boyfriend insisting you be married in our Church. What do you mean when you said “I have no issue with the whole converting things because I will always be Catholic”? God bless you and her. I do not want our religion to become a hindrance. So the ancient faith was not given the freedom to be embraced or survive on it’s merits in the public square. We would like to get married in the catholic church without my partner changing his religion. We had broken up for the same reason and later on reunited, and he agreed to marry me in the Catholic church and to have our children raised in the church… My question is, will our marriage be recognized in the eyes of the church? If you want to marry a person who is divorced, go speak with your parish priest. Why does the “catholic” church have to recognize a marriage in the first place. 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